And if you mention another potential suitor, only to get no reaction from him – it means that you’re not grabbing the attention of even his competitive side… You don’t want to make a mistake or lower your status in your boss’s eyes, so you act differently than normal. He’s not afraid that you’re going to fire him (unless you’re his boss, which is a whole different can of worms), but he’s definitely going to care what you think of him, which is going to make him act differently.Just like you want to know around him, to make him like you. He’ll act differently around you than other people. I’m interested – not “Let’s go back to my place and have some fun,” interested.
What makes you tick, what you like, what you don’t like, .
But 99% of the time, if he likes you, he’s going to listen to you, and remember the things you tell him. You say to him, “I saw my friend Steve last night.” Do his ears perk up? And unless he’s the suavest man on the planet – he’s going to reveal he cares (even if he just makes a joke) about what you did with “Steve.” Guys are hardwired to pick up on competition. That’s why if you can’t get a guy to care about something, the best way to get him hooked is to make it into a competition. Bet him that you can clean the dishes faster than he can.
Point is, if there’s one thing that guys love, it’s a competition.
Eventually I mustered up the courage to talk to her.
She wound up being an amazing girl who I still talk to this day.