The point is we always aimed to cure the malady while causing the least harm to the patient in the process.This perspective – doing the least harm – also informs my perspective on how we as a society should deal with all forms of violence, domestic violence included.In the heat of the moment separating two highly emotional people might be the best option until their emotions cool.But to imply that a woman or man is displaying weakness by staying in a relationship, or conversely, showing strength by leaving, is far too simplistic.We don’t want the most vulnerable facets of ourselves tarnished and torn to pieces like it was before.Our minds start to spin with questions: “What if they are just being charming?
Not only do I hate the sight of blood, but surgery, especially brain surgery, is usually an invasive and sensitive procedure which, even under the most skilled surgeon’s hands, exposes patients to a high risk of harm.
My and my team’s decision to operate was always based on the best interests of patients and their families.
A wide range of considerations went into our decision of whether to operate and what type of procedure to perform – the patients’ prognosis for survival without intervention, the age of the patient, the wishes of the family, the chances that the operation would be successful, and so on and on.
”You want to find a special someone to settle with, who supports and loves you for who you are, more than anything.
But opening up the layers of defense you’ve put around yourself, to share the most vulnerable part of yourself with someone after experiencing relationship abuse, can be one of the scariest things there is.