The goal is that you're working toward a relationship, which is the next big stage of commitment.However, your partner might have a few people on the back burner just in case things don't work out, and so may you.The last time I saw him, I asked him if we could define our relationship. I decided that everything was probably okay until yesterday when my brother went to a coffee shop and saw him with another girl.In response, he started talking, but somehow didn’t really say anything, and I got the feeling he was probably seeing someone else. Everything was still so new between us, so I let the subject drop. I’m afraid to bring this up with him because the conversation didn’t go well the last time; he’s obviously not ready to be exclusive with me. My friend, you are an unwitting victim of the new culture that I call “the Tinder Revolution.” Although it’s always been possible to see more than one person at a time, technology – and Tinder, where one swipes right or left to meet or reject another – is just one app of many that has made it much easier for us to encounter, get-to-know, and “communicate” with multiple people simultaneously.So you hang in there with anxiety and hope while another month goes by.
You'll see one another for a few months, along with a few other candidates and Tinder swipes, until you finally decide your crush is the person you want to be exclusive with. How do you know when you are truly done seeing other people, and have moved to a committed relationship with your partner?While there’s no magic bullet to prevent heartbreak, there is a good chance that if the relationship ended sooner you would not have fallen so hard.In the future, from the first date, let the guy know what you want and need: exclusivity. Even if you’ve missed your opportunity to set your boundaries on the first date, do it now.Sometimes, this confusion can make me want to come to every date with a checklist: But there's got to be a tactic easier than that to figure out where my relationship stands, without having to bring Emily Ratajkowski into it.Here's how you can distinguish between dating exclusively and being in a relationship, because seriously, what the Dating exclusively can happen with or without an explicit conversation — that is a main difference between dating exclusively and being in a relationship.