"It's a family, church and social system that favors the idea of courtship.
There were phrases like 'Don't date unless you're ready to get married' or at the age where you can support yourself on your own.
Without any guidance, I made bad dating choices in my teenage years and as a young adult mainly based upon looks and whether or not I liked someone - and I ended up marrying a beautiful woman who I thought was a woman of God.
Unfortunately I quickly learned that I had made the big mistake of failing to take the time needed to get to know what she was really like before marriage.
In a survey of 716 Christians released in January, only 11 percent said they save sex exclusively for marriage.
Instead, 60 percent said they would be willing to have sex without any strings attached, while 23 percent said they would have to be "in love." Five percent said they would wait to get engaged.
In an interview with The Christian Post, two Christian Millennials share their diverse stories on faith, sex and marriage, and explain why many singles are battling against the "purity culture" of their youth.
"For the Christian culture it's extremely frustrating, because they are trying to go after something lasting, but they're using the same formula to get something that's just not going to get them there," said Anderson.A majority of single Christians are rejecting biblical doctrine by choosing to have sex before they are married.Sixty-one percent of self-identified Christian singles who answered a recent Christian Mingle survey said they are willing to have casual sex without being in love, while only 11 percent said they are waiting to have sex until they are married.This data supports a 2011 Relevant Magazine poll that revealed that 80 percent of "young, unmarried Christians have had sex" and that "two-thirds have been sexually active in the last year." While the findings of a 2012 National Association of Evangelicals (NAE) and Grey Matter Research poll did not show outcomes as high as the two previous polls, according to its research, 44 percent of unmarried evangelicals between ages 18-29 said that they had sex, including 25 percent who said they had had sex in the last three months.Battling against the "purity culture" Emily Maynard, 28, a writer from Portland, Ore., has witnessed many of her friends rejecting abstinence, in what she interprets as them pushing back against the "purity culture," or the conservative sexual and dating norms with which they were raised.