The lesson: Friendship is what happens, 1) when you’re over them and 2) they have shown themselves to be friendship worthy, neither of which the object of NC is at this time. They might claim not to realise it on a conscious level but fact is, only someone who is incredibly emotionally immature and a responsibility dodger, would have no clue about how, 1) inappropriate their behaviour was / is or, 2) how affected you are.If you genuinely believe that they don’t recognise this, you have no business trying to have an adult relationship with them.If you’re making excuses for your ex, you’re absolving them of responsibility, which also deals a fatal blow to any ideas you have for a relationship with them. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.It’s also important to point out that unavailable people respond to loss of control by chasing you…and get back in control by pulling back and managing down your expectations and/or exiting.
If you cut contact in order to make him/her want you more, you’re believing that the way to prevent your relationship from ending is to end it, although this means that you then have to keep ending it or at least threatening to, in order to generate the demand, which if you’ve tried this is exhausting work.
This is a place for women to share ideas and thoughts through pictures and clips of how they want or have already castrated their husbands.
To punish, or reduce screwing around, or to fem their husbands,,, Did I miss any reasons ladies?
Far too much emphasis is put on finding a way to be friends again. If you’re going to be friends, it will happen without being forced and when you’re both back in neutral territory. If you try to be friends before you are enough of the way along in the healing process to be too impacted if they don’t behave as you’d like, you will reopen your wound.
That said, if there are very shady reasons for why you have to cut them off in the first place, I wouldn’t exactly break your neck to be friends. If you’ve got friendship on your mind, it’s likely a sign that you need to refocus your energy.