As for the words of love and appreciation that they need to hear, whatever you think you’re doing, it’s probably not enough so double it.
You can start with me—a certified anxious attachment human in recovery.
Not every guy deserves your trust right away, and he definitely should earn it. This is a well-rounded guy who isn’t afraid to express himself with you.
You may be guilty of trusting everyone, which may get you hurt. Not every man with the secure attachment is a knight in shining armor, but you can be relatively sure he doesn’t come with a ton of emotional baggage that will interfere with your relationship.
Knowing the characteristics of each attachment style can help you quickly identify which one the object of your desire is, and you can decide whether you’re up for dating, say, someone with an avoidant attachment before things get serious.
Your attachment style is formed in infancy but becomes a model upon which adult relationships are based.
Breaking down the different attachment styles, we examine the ways in which they influence relationship blueprints and motivations.
Having an insight into your own securities and insecurities can help improve the patterns in your dating life and safeguard your relationships in the long term too. Originally developed and examined between infant and caregiver relationships, research into attachment theory has evolved to explore how this becomes a template for adult intimate partner relationships.
Attachment theory was initially proposed by John Bowlby, who was interested in the highly distressed response of infants separated from their caregiver.