If she demands this of you, you might want to look elsewhere. And if you want to be a little more about this online dating thing, Interracial Dating Central is the official dating site for this blog.
Her agenda is compromised and it wont bode well for you in the end. We’re working on a men’s only coaching series that addresses these issues privately.
A lot of times, black women expect one man to conquer the world and give up everything and risk everyone’s life with constant stress of being victimized by people who are against him, and if he doesn’t choose that, he’s a cowardly piece of shit.
When I bring up the FACT that black women were also terrified of making the leap to love across color lines, historical context and justifications are given.
Kendall, who pulls no punches when it comes to telling it like it T-I-IS said this. But the same women who didnt think enough of themselves to only give life, love, support and sacrifice to the black male who has EARNED it, is the same bw who now demand the white man hand her the world. We expect feats of strength, dismantling of systems, and for him replace the image of his own MOTHER with ours as some sort of downpayment on our love. We focus on LOOKS, HEIGHT, AGE and all that other mess that black people use to choose mates and dont even realize that if we want to WIN! Cuz I see a lot of Sistas who CLAIM to be open to IRR but are quietly SEETHING that they cannot get the BLACK man they TRULY want, and expect white men to REIMBURSE her for it through the meeting of ridiculous expectations to make up the difference. Black women don’t force black males to sit and watch documentaries on rape, molestation, FGM, child brides, breast ironing and all of the other Patriarchal madness that black men have a hand in with bw all around the world.
It needed to be said, and those wise enough should take heed. Im kind of annoyed at the insistence many bw have that white and non-blk men slay every dragon and fight the powers that be in order to prove their love for us – yet for CENTURIES those same bw have demanded NOTHING of the black male. We want him to do for us al the things we NEVER demand our OWN sons do for us, and the reason why we do so is because we feel we should be COMPENSATED for the white man not being what many of us TRULY want – a functioning, protecting, producing BLACK one. They dont make bm sit and read bell hooks, Womanist Theory, studies on the 3x murder rate, 20x HIV rate, 11x Matricide rate, 60% molestation rate or any of the other negative effects black male sexism and hatred of Black Womanhood has on black women and girls.
However, contrary to the stereotypes, Black men are actually intermarrying less than others:“Black men, and this is according to Pew Research, marry outside of their race less than American Indian women, less than American Indian men, less than Latinos, less than Latinas, less than Asian women. Nothing is.”“We get enough of this everyday as Black people. Moreover, 85 percent of all Black male college graduates are married to Black women, and 88 percent of married Black men – of all education and income levels – marry sisters.
African American men marry outside of their race, comparatively, at one of the lowest rates on the planet. Further, an perpetuate myths about Black people and relationships, and the ways in which Black men and women interact.
Yet bw dont feel the need to champion that cause and place it at the center of all their interactions with them.One of the greatest traits black women have is our loyalty. “Many of our African American men have no interest in marrying an African American woman.Jimmy-Joe did not have the power to keep the Klu Klux Klan from burning crosses on his lawn for being a “n*gger lover.” Individual white men did not have any special powers to magically make all that stuff go away.But often there’s this judgement and lack of historical contextualizing black women engage in whenever we have these discussions.