For those American women reluctant to wear an abaya (the all-encompassing black cloak) and for those Saudi husbands who did not make an issue of the abaya prior to arriving, the intense public scrutiny that starts at the airport—given to a western woman who is accompanying a Saudi male—is usually the catalyst for the eventual covering up.
Since the overwhelming majority of American citizen wives never travel to the Kingdom prior to their marriage, they are abruptly catapulted into Saudi society.
Further, if an Italian woman marries a Muslim immigrant and they move to his country of origin, her rights are "not guaranteed in the way they are in Italy or in other Western nations." Such marriages, the statement concluded, should therefore be discouraged. 26, 2005 update: Stephen Fumio Hamao, a Japanese Catholic cardinal, wrote in 2004 about the "bitter experiences" of European women who marry Muslims. 23, 2007 update: The Kamil Internaltional Ministries Organization of Raleigh, North Carolina, has published a tract, "Why Women Should Not Marry Muslims?
" It begins by contrasting verses from the Koran and New Testament: Because our country receives people of all nationalities, cultures and religions, you may meet and develop a relationship with a Muslim man.
June 25, 2008 update: But not all the advice against intermarriage is directed to non-Muslim women.Others have found solace in kindred spirits (see the posting of Becs).Still others have drawn conclusions from their own experience and offered these for general use (see the posting of Standfree).It is remarkable for its undiplomatic and anecdotal tone, so distant from the department's standard bureaucratic style.For prospective spouses, "Marriage to Saudis" constituted an official tutorial in Saudi culture; for others, it served as a fascinating example of practical anthropology, school of hard knocks.