“When I came into the household, we sat the kids down and told them that I was going to be there and be a part of their lives, and that I would be like a stepmom,” Griswold said.“When everything was explained, we asked them what their thoughts were and they basically just said, ‘Okay!We get a lot of role models for monogamy in life, but there’s not a whole lot of examples of polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships that work.It helps to learn from each other and provide support to one another.”“For me, it’s the belief that you can love more than one person, as long as everyone knows, and is aware and consenting,” Leahy said.“The only issues [with the kids] have been what to wear in the mornings for school when its cold out,” Griswold said.“We are not walking naked around the house swinging dildos, like some people might think.
And you should make sure you have control over it, and it’s not ruling your life,” Leahy said. There’s usually something under the surface of that jealousy that can better resolve my feelings.”Leahy wants to ensure that everyone in his pod knows they are free to come and go; no one is keeping them there, but rather they are all engaging in loving relationships, and have the ability to see whoever they want.
In polyamory, being ethical is key to ensuring that everyone in your pod is aware of each other, that all lines of communication are open, and everyone stays up-to-date on testing for STDs.“We’ll all get together, and we’re kind of like a family unit,” Leahy said.
“We’ll have dinner together and we make sure we’re all friends with each other, even the people I don’t date directly.
Their philosophy is to build a social and support group for those who wish to be intimate with more than one partner, knowing that all parties are aware and consenting.
As founder and president of VA Polyamory, Leahy can often be found organizing potluck parties and beer socials with his organization, or hosting educational workshops for VA Polyamory on such topics as communication and polyamory 101.