“I’m not sure I’m ready to date again, but it’s good to get back in there, right? But, surprising myself, I answered in a string of rushed syllables: “I want a silver arrow who shoots across the sky knowing exactly where he’s going!
” I asked him, announcing that I’d reinstated my Tinder account.
Then I did what many of us do in these times of need. Tinder, the dating app, was where I’d met my ex, and my ex before that, too. Just spend a little more time on the old app — — and, poof, another guy to date. Write that on your profile.” “Oh, I don’t know,” I said. Of course, after a breakup, once you start putting the clues together, it seems like you never should have expected anything else – the red flags were lined up in a row waving in your face, and the only reason you failed to see them was that you didn’t want to look. I was ever more sure he had never Tindered; he probably met all his girlfriends at psychology conventions or walking through Paris in the springtime. Still, I took it like a champ — at least, I thought so. Can a man not make it without sex 7-10 days every once and a while?I realize he was not cheating on me with someone else, but I still feel very hurt by this . Is this just something women have to learn to deal with? I have a few thoughts: You have made a huge breakthrough in your marriage. Your husband has just shared something very personal and very scary.