When you parent using a Rigid boundary style, you over use non-negotiable rules and forget to use negotiable rules.
Your rigid stance makes it hard for your children to talk to you about what they want or need.
You will learn the boundaries solution styles in the next chapter. What do you want for employees – robots or innovators?
The book Growing Up Again by (Jean Ilsley Clarke and Connie Dawson) gives many great examples of appropriate parenting styles for different ages. So what am I supposed to do – never have an opinion again? Of course not, the point is to keep looking at your short and long term relationship goals and decide if your approach is going to get you there or not.
Learn to see other people’s reactions and to pick up on their boundary styles.
Sometimes, you need to set a hard line limit with someone and she is not going to like it. It is okay to be perceived as using rigid as long as it doesn’t sabotage your relationship success.
For example, I might set an immediate, no-nonsense limit with someone who is trying to park in my parking spot at work.