As I was scrolling through my newsfeed for what I am sure was the seventh time, I came across a video shared by one of my FB friends. Within the first 45 seconds, I could feel my body getting hot. By the third minute mark, I couldn’t figure out if the tears forming in my eyes were from anger or sheer disgust.
For almost ten minutes, I watched a White woman shamelessly bash Black women.
According to this woman, Black men prefer White women because: ● Black men can pull hair during sex without the tracks slipping ● They ride for their men and Black women leave them when they are broke ● We carry ourselves in a way that turns the Black man off ● We have 5 or 6 kids by multiple Baby daddies ● We can’t pay our bills because we spend all of our money on weave ● We don’t have father figures ● All of the other races are taking over You get the picture.
When our bodies are held in comparison to features of other women, not only are we made to feel like sexual objects, but his teaches those who are watching the behavior of the Black men that we as Black women are nothing more than a fat ass.
The practice constantly forces us to defend her self-worth and piece together our deminished self esteem.
As livid as I was, my anger subdued when I realized that my frustrations were misplaced. She was spoon-fed a scoop of #alternativefacts by a self-hating Black man.
If he, meaning the Black man as a whole doesn’t honor us, how can we possible be upset that people outside of our community don’t either?