Two Of Us, a subsidiary of The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center, an information resource for healthy marriages, says that having a long-term relationship with a significantly older partner presents the possibility that you may outlive him.
Additionally, there is the chance that your mate may develop chronic or terminal health issues that would require you to take on the role of caretaker, which, according to Paula Span in a 2012 New York Times article, can take a heavy emotional and psychological toll on you. Nola Mokeyane has written professionally since 2006, and has contributed to various online publications, including "Global Post" and Modern Mom.
Consider whether you can realistically handle this family dynamic -- if a mate invited you over to meet his kids, would you feel comfortable?
You should also consider how you would handle rejection from a potential partner's kids.
This establishes an imbalance of power within your relationship, and can cause relationship turmoil.
If you and your older partner begin a long-term, committed relationship, starting a family will be an important consideration.
His current girlfriend is very admittedly NOT a kid person (neither, it should be noted, is my SO's dad, despite fathering four of them - his second marriage soured when his wife, who had been of the "I don't want kids" camp during their dating years switched gears after they got married and decided she did).
From his first marriage to his college sweetheart, he has my boyfriend (age 31) and his brothers (ages 29 and 24).While every relationship has its own unique characteristics, it's helpful to be aware of potential issues when dating an older man so that you can make an informed decision about your future romantic relationship.Professor of psychology and director of the Spirituality and Health Institute at Santa Clara University, Thomas G. D., says that compatibility is necessary for the day-to-day functions associated with long-term partnerships.I think my boyfriend's dad may have finally learned not to get married. I don't like kids and would never marry a man with a young child.But the salient issue for me is that he married a much younger woman when he was around 50.