Instead of reacting with excitement or gratitude, her mother started lecturing her.
While many single, 40-year old women may be perfectly content with the lives they live, when they step out in the world, there seems to be a constant reminder that they are "failing" because they are not in permanent relationships.
This column isn't about removing personal responsibility or placating our women friends by hiding our honest advice.
Instead, I want to consider how we can deepen the way in which we support our friends, or, in some cases, how we can stay out of their way. Without it, we get defensive when dealing with our problems.
It may be cliché to bring up this idea that an older man is a catch and an older woman is an old maid, but this standpoint remains an accepted stance from our cultural perspective.
Things have definitely improved in terms of how women and men are constructed in terms of their gender identities, but I'm not talking about a cultural examination as much as I'm talking about the personal message that we give to our single 40-year friends and how that needs to change.