Also don’t you remove the mystery and stuff to look forward to when you try to do it all very quickly? If you are being fast-forwarded you will miss crucial red flags that indicate that the relationship is unhealthy.
Even without red flags, by Fast-Forwarding the relationship, you will both create great expectations that may stifle the relationship before it has a chance to prosper.
Of course when they disappear or they replace ‘the model’ you got with a pared down version, you will wonder what was wrong with you to cause the loss of adoration.
In fact, let me say it real straight for you – this is not a fairy tale. You’re not in a rom com where you move at high speed to a happy ending. Or, more accurately, first, a younger male friend commandeered my Tinder account (he agreed with my therapist wholeheartedly) and then I changed it still more, because dating, like life, is something of a group effort sometimes. It took a week and a few glasses of wine but I did it.), a day, a night, a few dates, weeks, months, and in some cases, some can play the long game and draw it out for a year.When you get swept up in someone Fast-Forwarding you, you will basque in the adoration.