Most important, don't just talk about yourself. What pretty much all of my guy friends and I have found is that there's often a direct correlation between the girl who talks only about herself and the girl who's a self-absorbed nightmare in person.
Asking questions right off the bat will intrigue most intelligent, non-self-absorbed guys.
Step One First, when it comes to the initial introduction, try something a little more fun than "Hey" or Hi." Maybe pose a simple question, like: Pizza or burgers?
It's simple, kind of funny, and will get the conversation rolling.
Save filler conversation like that for the 300 creeps you're probably never going to meet in real life.
Next, it's time to whittle things down to a manageable selection of guys who are promising and cute—or, for people with simpler standards, who don't look like complete psychos.But even before you’ve agreed to meet someone, there may be warning signs of impending dating disaster … Our best online dating advice: before you respond to that next wink or personal message, start watching out for these red flags. A Picture That’s Worth Less Than a Thousand Words It’s normal to be suspicious of people whose pictures are blurry or far away, full of other random people, or purposely vague.If a guy’s profile is full of shots of him in sunglasses, dressed up for Halloween, or in miniature in front of the Great Wall of China, it’s hard not to suspect that he’s hiding something.If he's not even willing to be fun on that first point of contact, he's probably not going to be much fun on a date.And besides, on our end, when a girl does something cute and funny like that, it pretty much blows our minds since we've gotten so used to the excruciating work of trying to build a conversation out of "Hey [Insert name of hopefully non-psycho guy here]."Step Two The next step in generating interest comes when you actually begin to message back and forth.