I will try to listen and to work with the other person to come up with a solution we both feel good about. This would be easier for me if you would tell me if you aren’t sure what to say or if you feel uncomfortable so I’ll know what you’re feeling and don’t have to guess.
I will try and be sensitive to their feelings just as I hope they are trying to be sensitive to mine. I would feel better if you would tell me my feelings matter to you and that you appreciate me bringing up a difficult subject. How I think things would be better if this happened? I think we would be able to talk more openly so our relationship would be better.
Codependency can become an issue in ADD couples where you have an over functioning non ADD spouse and an under functioning ADD spouse.
The non ADD spouse will often say they feel like they’re more of a parent than a partner so we help them get into the role of support and encouragement and out of the role of caretaker.
Some people are also going to need a 12 step program like AA or NA due to the substance abuse history.
While not true therapy, another psychosocial approach is called ADHD coaching.
The focus tends to be very specific, zeroing in on effective time management and organization.
Group counseling can help the adult with ADD to gain support from others living with the condition and to practice social skills. Some people make use of on line support groups and virtual communities.
Some people go through the experience of grieving the life they think they could have had, how things could have been different, if they’d been diagnosed when they were younger.
A counselor can help their client work through that process to come to a place of acceptance.
Coaches are not necessarily trained to help you cope with the emotional impact of living with adult ADHD, like a therapist is.
But coaching can help you deal with the problems ADHD causes.