"Notice when you're doing it, and acknowledge to yourself what's going on," Newton says.
"Then take a breath and ask yourself: 'Who is this person right here in front of me, and how does he or she make me feel in this moment?
"If you're a gym junkie, get outside and learn something new: hike, walk, join a running meetup group," says House.
Trying something new will help you rediscover parts of yourself that might have gone missing — potentially help you meet a new love interest. Strike up a conversation with someone in the grocery line – whatever feels the most comfortable to you.
Unfortunately, dating is really the only way to find The (Second) One — so here's how to make the whole experience more fun.
It's an old saying, but it keeps getting thrown around because it's true: You have to love yourself before someone else can love you.
That's because "when people are willing to work through the emotional challenges of a divorce proactively and learn from the experience, they enter new relationships with more maturity and self-awareness.
""In my personal experience, I can tell you that second marriages are often far better than first marriages," Newton says.
To get to that place of self-love, she recommends "looking yourself in the eyes (in a mirror) and telling yourself five things you love about you, like 'I love my smile' or 'I love how I make others feel safe.'"When you're ready, the first thing to do, says House, is to physically get out there – no one will know you're available to date if you're staying inside your house all the time!
But this doesn't necessarily mean joining every dating service and offering yourself up for blind dates with your coworker's cousin's friend's neighbor.
"There's nothing to hide or be ashamed of, and avoiding the topic sets the tone that you're afraid of something." Moving on from the topic is equally as important as addressing it in the first place, Newton adds.
Make it "clear you're willing to discuss it, but that you've also put it behind you. If the topic comes up, you might say, 'I'm divorced.