It's likely that your partner already finds you attractive and wants to look at you. Nothing coming out of the mouths of porn actors is poetic or complex. Call me a girl, but lying there after most kinds of sex with people I like, I want to check in with my partner, talk to them, find out about their day, their dreams, make them laugh or see if they can make me laugh. Otherwise, why are they wasting their time and your time? In we're-in-the-same-room sex, there's a simple formula for effective dirty talking. I think it's more that you want to feel attractive in your own skin. It's taken me a time and a lot of work to feel that way about myself, and I'm lucky that I finally do. So even on Skype, it's considerate to follow up, especially after the first time.
resize=768:*" /You might feel silly at first, but have fun: Video sex has a distinct benefit over sexting or phone sex—you actually get to see each other.
Having an encouraging person on the other end is invaluable. (Am I just a set of naked pixels for you to put your sex feelings into? Since you're clearly not near your partner, a little keepsake for the lonely times is nice.
If my partner weren't reassuring me I was hot, it would just make me feel weird. ) It's scary to be that vulnerable, so make sure you appreciate your partner out loud. But before you take a screenshot, make sure your boundaries are clear.
If you can't find confidence in any other aspect of Skype sex, find confidence in that.
Before you start, write down 10 or more things you want to "do" with your partner—role play, dirty talk, touching, stripteases, etc.—and send these tips to each other.