It seems that dating might be universally confusing. What makes Christian dating so hopelessly complicated is the Christians themselves.We bring our love for out-of-context scripture and applied-only-when-convenient principles into the mix, making for an entirely unique brand of utter ridiculousness. You don’t have to think, because we’re here to do it for you.If you’re emotionally broken or scarred, go get healing. But if you’re healthy, the only rule you need to follow is simply to be you.Self-development is important, but that’s about you, not about what you think some random bro wants to see.And like I mentioned in point #2, if you have your eye on a prize, don’t be afraid to intentionally attract him or straight-up pursue.I’m simply trying to free you from an arbitrary, contradicting checklist that falsely promises to land you “a good Christian guy.”Is someone making burgers, ’cause I’m about to roast a sacred cow. ”What people seem to be forgetting is that you’ll learn 91.342% of everything you ever know during marriage. You’re marrying her because her current decision-making suggests a long-term value for character.If you’re going to reject community and walk in pride, nothing I say could prevent you from a sucky life. If you’ve cultivated a relationship with Holy Spirit and are remaining in close relationship with spiritual fathers and mothers in your life, you’re going to be just fine.The single best way to destroy your life is to isolate from community and ignore all advice.)For the rest of you young people, I got news for you. You’ve been learning from your parents’ victories and mistakes for years, and you’ve also been watching the consequences of your friends’ actions, both good and bad. Healthy dating is as simple as being intentional and practicing good communication.
Everyone has advice to offer, and it’s usually the ones with the most ridiculously screwed-up relationship history that are most confident in raining that advice ceaselessly upon you.(Before I rile up too much teen spirit, let’s start with Prov and Prov . In our celebrity-loving Christian culture, anyone with a success story is ready to create a new theology or teaching to sell to the Body of Christ. What worked or failed for them won’t always give you the same results.
For those unfamiliar with the subject, dating is a relatively simple procedure that must always be hopelessly complicated for any Christian daring to try it out.
If you’re feeling lucky, try Googling “christian dating advice.” We’ll see you next week…But wait!
This is by far the weakest excuse for a cop-out I’ve ever heard, and yet it somehow manages to repeatedly eek its way out of the mouths of otherwise-brilliant pastors, authors, bloggers, and never-at-all-brilliant Twitter philosophers. Last time I checked, I don’t get paralyzed when a hot girl says “Hi” to me, and I am literally the ONLY one in control of actions at all times. Why don’t all the men just grow up, and then we can start having some teaching for adults. If most of the Christian guys you’re interested in had it fully together, we probably wouldn’t be having this conversation. It simply means they are lacking in awareness, confidence, or most commonly, know-what-they-want-edness. I’m not saying you should or shouldn’t pursue a guy. If dating hinders your relationship with God, why would you ever date… If you’re focusing on Jesus in this season, who are you focusing on during all the other seasons?
I don’t recall signing over my personal responsibility to every woman on the planet with nicely toned legs and a propensity for living. I’m just saying that if you know what you want, why wait until he figures it out? If you get married at age 25, you’ll spend at least two thirds of your life in a relationship. One of the biggest problems in Christian dating culture is the idea that young adults should limit their coed relationships to marriage fast-track candidates.