And especially not if they are raising kids.”In another post on her blog, Tammy wrote about how she pulled in nearly million in just a few years in the entertainment business through commercial work and being on the Ryan Murphy show Popular, at which she made ,000 a week.And that, once she gave up her budding Hollywood career to become a full-time wife and mother, her ability to earn at the level she was used to had been decimated.“Not all of them, but when it comes to property dissolution, virtually all of them.”“What typically happens in a relationship where one person is rich and the other person isn’t is the one person who is rich has to support the spouse who is poorer in the style to which they had become accustomed,” said Jean.“If, for 20 years, they lived with someone who was a multigazillionaire and then they get divorced and they would go back to being a waitress, they don’t have to do that.And when Proposition 8 was passed, Melissa famously vowed to stop paying taxes in protest.(Interestingly, they didn’t become registered domestic partners until 2005, two years after the ceremony.)And, in their “divorce,” they are fighting over the same things that straight married couples fight about: money.
Melissa and Tammy Lynn Etheridge’s split has been messy from the beginning, when in the spring of 2010, Tammy took to her blog to write quasi-poetic musings that revealed that all was not well in the house of Etheridge.
“I think that they’re not reacting nearly as bad as they reacted to the Kardashian breakup. Same-sex couples have the same problems as heterosexual couples when they split. ”What’s also interesting—and important—about the Etheridge breakup is how it’s illuminated the problems with “domestic partnerships.” Even in California, which is considered a “community-property” state that recognizes registered domestic partnerships and gives nearly all the same benefits as marriages do, in the eyes of many people, including gays and lesbians themselves, the unions are often not considered “real,” a byproduct of what Jean called “oppression sickness.”“We suffer from failing to give our own relationships the same worth that we think people who are married have, that straight people have,” she said.
There’s been some right-wing gloating about it, but I don’t think it’s been all that huge a topic of conversation. “When we break up, a lot of us don’t give our relationships the same credit, and so don’t think our partners should be entitled to the same things that they would have been entitled to under marriage laws and of course that is wrong.
(Emails and calls to lawyers for both Melissa and Tammy Etheridge were not returned.)The back and forth has sent the gossip blogs into overdrive.
But could the conspicuous ugliness actually be a boon to gay marriage?